Catch You on the Flip Side

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The Greek philosopher Epictetus once said, “We have two ears and one mouth so that we can listen twice as much as we speak.”

But lately, I’ve been doing a whole lot of speaking and precious little listening. That is why I’ve decided to spend some time away from this blog.

This decision hasn’t been easy to make — blogging has been nothing if not a positive experience for me. Every post has gotten me closer to experiencing myself in full bloom.

From the inception of this blog, I’ve sought to share myself and my beliefs in hopes of making one little corner of the world a better place to be. Nothing about that goal has changed. Catch You on the Flip SideContinue reading

Thanks, But No Thanks: Gays Really Don’t Need You Condemning Us to Hell

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So I’ve been pretty candid about my faith and sexuality lately on this blog: I sounded off on religious homophobia, raised some questions about gender, shared about coming out to my family, and even made confessions about my failing love life.

All things considered, I feel pretty good about opening up. I’m not the sort of person who likes hiding my thoughts. But unfortunately, that isn’t to say it’s been easy telling the truth.

In the wake of these revealing posts, a number of my personal acquaintances have begun expressing concern over my beliefs, and I think the time has come for me to clear the air. Thanks, But No Thanks: Gays Really Don’t Need You Condemning Us to HellContinue reading

How a Gay Student Goes to an LGBT Club and Ends Up Eating Crow

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The more you learn, the dumber you feel. That’s the best way to sum up my first experience at a large university LGBT student organization.

I wound up there innocently enough. Basically, it was an attempt to find some social interaction. You see, I recently left my former school to take some time off from college, and it turns out I miss constant contact with others my age a lot more than I thought I would.

Fortunately, the members of this group didn’t mind at all that an outsider was crashing their party. They welcomed me right in.

Now before I tell you why the meeting made me feel like a complete Neanderthal, let me give you a little background on myself. There was an LGBT group at my previous school, but since I went to pretty much the dinkiest college you’ve never heard of, it was a relatively homogenous club. How a Gay Student Goes to an LGBT Club and Ends Up Eating CrowContinue reading

5 Things to Find in Yourself Before You Find a Relationship

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I like to think I’m a fairly level-headed person. The best approach to problem-solving, after all, is to think rationally. At least, that’s what I tell myself whenever I’m trying to help my friends make sense of their lives. So why is it so difficult to follow that advice when it’s my own life?

I guess what I’m trying to say is, love stinks.

Without going into all the details, I just reached the end of a brief (almost) relationship with a guy I really thought I was into. When I found out he wanted to stay “just friends,” it was a hard blow.

You see, I’ve been wanting (read: desperate) to start a relationship for a long time. And when the possibility finally presented itself, I threw caution to the wind and allowed myself to get attached way too quickly. 5 Things to Find in Yourself Before You Find a RelationshipContinue reading

The Peace of Coming Out to Family and How to Do It

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I am not the sort of person who likes to keep secrets. If you’ve been reading my blog for any length of time, that probably comes as no surprise. The reason I hate secrets so much is they are the most isolating thing in the world. Knowing something that someone else doesn’t is like standing on opposite sides a of a brick wall. And personally, I’ve had it with walls.

This is a conclusion I’ve reached after taking a break from college and moving down to Arkansas to live with family for a bit. Going from school, where all my close friends knew about my sexuality, to Arkansas, where my family didn’t have the slightest idea, was exponentially harder than I thought it would be. The Peace of Coming Out to Family and How to Do ItContinue reading

Freshly Pressed Follow-Up: To the Author of ‘7 Reasons Jesus Was Gay’

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To everyone reading, thank you so much for visiting my little blog! (or, as a friend of mine pointed out, my formerly little blog) I am absolutely honored beyond belief that my post To the author of ‘7 Reasons Jesus Was Gay’ has been selected for the WordPress.com Freshly Pressed editors’ picks.

The Story Behind the Post

Truth be told, this post was by far the fastest and easiest one I’ve ever written. You see, after reading Thought Catalog’s unbelievably indignant article 7 Reasons Jesus Was Gay, it just flowed out of me.

The ironic part is, I came very close to not publishing it. As someone who grew up going to church, who studied at a Christian college, who was employed as a Bible camp counselor, I am definitely losing some popularity because of my opinions on Christianity and homosexuality. Freshly Pressed Follow-Up: To the Author of ‘7 Reasons Jesus Was Gay’Continue reading

Thanks for Making This an Award-winning Blog!

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Here’s some news I’m very excited to announce: this is now an award-winning blog! On January 18, I was honored with the Versatile Blogger Award.

This distinction is received by peer nomination from fellow bloggers across WordPress. I’d like to thank Lee over at Life Accordinglee for awarding the VBA to me. You should definitely check out her blog, because it’s one of my favorites.

According to the official rules, the VBA comes with two stipulations: to accept the award, recipients must share seven facts about themselves, and they must also nominate 15 other blogs. Thanks for Making This an Award-winning Blog!Continue reading

To the Author of ‘7 Reasons Jesus Was Gay’

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I’m a big fan of Thought Catalog, so naturally I came across your post “7 Reasons Jesus Was Gay”. After reading this piece, I’d like to tell you that as a gay Christian myself, I am extremely disappointed that you would choose to make us a laughingstock by posting this kind of material.

Every day, LGBT Christians face seemingly insurmountable discrimination from our fellow believers, and so-called jokes like your post serve only to make a mockery of our struggle for equality.

Sure, it’s satire. I get it. But the thing about satire is, it always has a target. What you’re doing is making us, LGBT Christians, the target by denigrating our cause and our beliefs. To the Author of ‘7 Reasons Jesus Was Gay’Continue reading

The Writer’s Playlist: 15 Songs to Inspire Better Creative Writing

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There are many writers, myself included, who find inspiration in music. Speaking for myself, I never write without my headphones on. Not only does music stir up my emotions, but it also helps me withdraw from the world around me and dissolve into the world I’m creating.

Music is the shorthand of emotion. – Leo Tolstoy

But it’s not just any song that does the trick. A good “writing tune” has to be powerful enough to make your emotions yearn, yet relaxed enough that it doesn’t distract you.

At the beginning of every writing session, I pick just one song depending on how I’m feeling and what I’m writing. Then I play it on repeat for the whole session. I find that the repetition helps get me in the zone; rotating among different songs is too jarring for me. The Writer’s Playlist: 15 Songs to Inspire Better Creative WritingContinue reading

What I Did Packed in a Closet with 4 Complete Strangers

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Saturday nights for me usually don’t involve getting packed into a closet with a group of strangers. Yet, lo and behold, that’s exactly where I found myself last weekend. And you know what? It was the most fun I’ve had in a long time.

But let’s back up, shall we? You’d probably like to know how I got myself into this.

Long story short, I recently moved down to Arkansas to temporarily live with some extended family after leaving my college in Iowa. Come summer, I’ll be finishing school in Chicago, but for the meantime, I’m working down here to save up money.

While this is a great decision for my long-term future, it’s been hard to find other young adults to connect with in the meantime. And last weekend I reached a point where I needed to get out or risk going bonkers. What I Did Packed in a Closet with 4 Complete StrangersContinue reading